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I remember the daughter of the high school superintendent ditched a nerdy but good Asian guy for some big time military guy.Don’t really have much of an opinion on him, don’t know anything about him.Instead she gave me her number and pretty much demanded this time that I call her that night. This wasn’t ignoring boundaries, this was someone who was into you and telling you – in pretty much no uncertain terms – that she wanted to invite you over for a hot cup of “fuck my brains out”. Little did I know that people were taking this as a challenge or whatever, and were not sincerely listening to me when I told them I wanted them to fuck off.Even at that age I was skeeved right the fuck out not by her forwardness but just how she lacked any notion of boundaries, so I didn’t call her. Now, if you’re not into women who’re forward, cool. I couldn’t figure people out back then or the reason they did things so I just thought there were those who were naturally forward and those they preyed on, and if you didn’t want to be fucked with, you gave them a whole lot of shit to get them off your back. I was definitely the outcast in high school, that guy who was bullied relentlessly, so when these girls were interested in me, I just thought they were pitying me and I felt dirty for it.This same goth kid was the type who would tell the black kids they needed to be lynched to their faces, and would “joke” about anti-Semitism around actual Jewish kids around him.Shockingly, girls do occasionally date shitty edgelords.These are the times when it’s time to head to the lab, see what’s on the slab, and then get elbow deep in it’s guts to see where things went wrong. More often than not, it calls for a mix of tough love and a liberal application of The Chair Leg of Truth. Once you get past a time when being marriage was less of a way of sealing contracts or property exchanges and people started marrying for love and companionship, that’s exactly how it works.But at the end: we’ll understand what went wrong and what it’s going to take for things to work next time. There’s been a lot that’s been bothering me about the whole Nice Guy/Asshole thing for well over a decade. The world got by with people hooking up, having sex and having kids long before Ross Jeffries thought saying “blow me” in an oddly stilted way could get him head. I first thought it was a load of bullshit, Not entirely wrong.
I recalled how a similar field hockey star and straight A student dated a loser type for years, someone who couldn’t even spell cynical.
The years that followed up to the present I never once got into any relationship, both for reasons well beyond my control and for my own personal fuckups.